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Title: Our society
Year: 1891 (1890s)
Authors: Ives, Alice Emma Beecher, Henry Ward, Mrs., 1813-1897 Williams, Cora May. (from old catalog) Foley, John Samuel, Bishop, 1833- (from old catalog) Cleveland, Rose Elizabeth, 1846-1918
Subjects: Etiquette Physical education and training
Publisher: Detroit, Mich., Darling brothers & company
Contributing Library: The Library of Congress
Digitizing Sponsor: The Library of Congress

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state between the going out of the old administration and the
coming in of the new; or the lady of the house may have
arranged, herself, to make a visit, and the coming of the
invader thus despoils the plans of two families.

A General Invitation.— In view of the above contingencies,
we most emphatically say, do not accept such an invitation as
" Do come and make us a visit," though felt to be earnest and
cordial, without something being added unto it by way of
preliminaries. A lady should scarcely go to city, town or
country to visit her own sister, without first writing to announce
her coming, or asking if it will be convenient. Even the

140 OUR SOCIETY.

members of one family may have times when they can more
perfectly enjoy each others society than at others.

The Right of a Hostess.—The hostess unquestionably has a
right to say whom she will entertain; and none but intimate
friends, between whom there is a perfect understanding, will
even write to announce an intended visit, but will wait for a
special invitation.
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" WELCOME THE COMING."
The Time Specified.—When such an invitation is extended
the time for coming and length of visit should be clearly stated.
By this arrangement, the guest will not unconsciously disar-
range her friends plans by staying too long, or frustrate any
pleasant projects for her entertainment, by departing before
they can be carried out. At English country houses, the time
and duration of a visit is always specified, and the guest who
makes himself particularly charming and desirable, is urged to
repeat the visit at a very early date, instead of being persist-
ently pressed to remain. It is understood that the visitor has
other invitations and plans, even if the host or hostess may not.

VISITORS AND VISITING. 141

A Limit Made by the Guest.—When no time has been set
for departure, in the invitation, the visitor will make his own
limitation, and inform his entertainer. If the latter has made
no such specification, he does not like to ask his guest how
long he intends to remain, and yet it may be inconvenient for

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