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"I am on my own side, but I can listen", by Erik Pevernagie Oil on canvas, (80 x 100 cm) xx

We need not be afraid of learning to know ourselves, fearing it would come down to disappointment. Remaining humble allows us to have compassion for ourselves for not being perfect. If we stay lucid and grounded, we steer clear of the steep cliffs of delusional self-importance or arrogance.

Above all, let us take the time to learn to listen intently to ourselves if we want to be mindful and aware of others. If we can untie the knotty points in our minds and become conscious of what is essential in our lives, we can reach the core of our inner selves and then sense how cool it is to listen to others and enjoy the wonder of connecting.

Life can be generous but often leaves us with a trilemma. We must be able to reconcile three distinct elements: 'I,' 'me,' and the 'others.'

Since the "I" entails what I want, the "me" is what others expect of me, and the "others" is what others themselves want.

The bridges between "individuality," "surroundings," and "otherness" can be abysmal and are very often under repair.

For building up a 'personality,' self-esteem is essential. If we are mindful and feel involved, we learn a lot about ourselves. It also implies that we must be patient.

'Patience' does not endure instant gratification, though. Self-knowledge can take a lifetime.

Let patience be our coach. Patience is the silent power that opens an interior space and creates a touch of liberty in our minds. It is a welcome present to oneself, an enduring resilience challenge, allowing us to find the essentials in our lives.

Between goodwill and egocentrism, we must build a bond of concern. Open-mindedness helps us assess our life experiences, raise our self-regard, and restore our self-confidence.

Phenomenon: individuality, otherness, personality, self-esteem, open-mindedness, receptiveness.